March 5, 2012 at 8:56 AM
It has always been something that Nick and I have been totally in agreement over. Pocket money is not for free to our children, it is earned. Weather it is washing the car or feeding the animals, showing in the guests or stripping the beds, there are plenty of jobs here with a family business and increasingly as our children grow up, we expect them to help out and encourage this in every way. http://www.coombemill.com/family-team
Making it easy
Help is always more forthcoming when it a job that interests them! Let's face it, as jobs go, stripping beds in 19 properties is a chore that has to be done while roaring round the farm on a quad bike is somewhat more appealing to my boys! Farmer Nick is always keen to encourage them by making their chores more fun; he is a tools and gadgets boy himself! His latest lash up is a homemade trailer for the quad to assist in carrying everything from hay for the animals to logs for the log stores. The boys are only too keen to help out now!
Things don't always go to plan!
Felix and Theo were really working well together at the weekend. Inspired by Daddy's trailer they even forgot to ask how much they would earn, instead happily loading logs and distributing them round the properties!
Having finished the logs they set off for a fun ride on the farm. No one is prepared to admit how this happened!
Sheepishly Theo came to ask for help; thankfully he has a very practical Daddy who was able to save the day:
A helping hand?
Would it have been quicker to have done the logs ourselves? Most definitely, however that is not the point. Children have so much to learn: the value of money, that dull jobs need doing as well as exciting ones, that machinery if mishandled can be dangerous and lapses in concentration has consequences! I would rather they learned those lessons here with us than on their own when they are grown up, so Nick and I will continue to invest time and money into encouraging their young help.
Not deterred here they are back out on the farm the following day moving hay and animals with Daddy.
What do you expect from your children?
Are we on our own in our thinking? How far do you go in asking or paying your children to help? Do you allow them to help with difficult or potentially dangerous things too? It is a difficult one to get right as a parent, but we all do our best to prepare our children for adulthood as best we can.
March 13, 2011 at 8:49 PM
Should you give your children money each week, at what age? how much? on what bais? What do they and don't they have to pay for themsleves with it?
This is a a minefield of controversay which every parent will go through with their children at some stage. We all make our decsions based on very little guidance and a lot of peer presure from what others are doing. there is no right and wrong in this, we all just do what we feel is best. Would love to hear your views on the subject.
Just for the record ours get nothing without working for it. This may sound harsh but actually when you run a business like ours there are so many ways in which the children can help it actually makes it easy. Chores range from caring for the rabbits daily to manning reception, making kindling to sell and animal feed and of cause helping with changeover day stripping beds and putting on washing etc. As for how much, kindling starts at 25p per bundle they chop and tape up to £2.50 per week on the rabbits and up to the cleaners rates for cleaning a property to the full standard - only my eldest is up to this one and it takes him all day to clean a property as he is such a prefectionist - no good at all when we are busy! A day stripping the beds in summer and bagging up the laundry is £10. They are about age 10 before they can do this one.
What they are expected to buy with their money is also contentious, our eldest is saving to pay for a school skiing trip next year at £800 for which we have contributed £200. His friends apparently don't need to pay for themselves so it is a bit unfair, but so is life and we feel he is gaining good experience and appreciation of money by working for this goal. He can make the target but will need to work his summer on the farm and cleaning. Om the other hand our 6 year olds are thrilled when they earn a £1 and head straight for the village shop to work out how many sweets they can afford. Fortunatley they are well known there and the staff are very patient when they try to buy too much or claim they thought their 10p was a £1 coin!