Are Manners old fashioned?

Posted on November 23rd, 2011 -

Thank you and please are such simple wordsplease

It really doesn’t take much to say, and really shouldn’t be hard to remember, yet time and time again I sounds like a broken record repeating “Did you remember to say thank you?” whenever my kids accept a lift or play date. From toddlers up we start on the “say ta” or “say please” and “what’s the magic word?” Yet to children it clearly has no meaning as it takes years before it comes naturally. (I hope I am correct here and it’s not just mine!) I can truthfully say that only now can I trust my age 9+ children and still have to prompt the triplets sometimes (age 7).

Do manners really matter?Thanks

I guess this is a personal thing but I do feel they are important. I have to bite my tongue if children visit us and continually forget to say please. I have caught myself before now saying “was that “yes please Fiona?”” For me it is all tied up with respect, especially for older family members like grandparents and Aunts and Uncles, but even amongst my own children I find myself correcting them for being rude to one another.
In my own childhood I was definitely at home with the ultimate Mummy and Daddy manners police and from those times I can sympathise with the emotions of children, the feeling of “what’s the big fuss, why are b***** manners SO important anyway?” I try to explain to my children why I want them to have an acceptable level of manners, how it helps their social interaction, encourages others to respond favourably to their requests and opens up more opportunities for them to do the things they enjoy when other people providing these treats feel valued and respected.  

What about table manners?

I do feel I have failed here compared to my parents. They painstakingly ensured I never dared to “shovel” so much as a pea on my fork at the dinner table. Even the correct holding of cutlery was paramount. As for waving a knife in the air or speaking with my mouthful, these were a “cuff round the ear” offenses! I was an only child, so in my defence I do feel my parents had a much easier task as “The manners Police” than Nick and I . Of cause I have taught mine how to do it all properly, but actually enforcing the teachings on a daily basis is another matter altogether! Increasingly I find if the plates are clean, they sat on their bottoms and didn’t eat with their fingers or insult a sibling it counts as a successful meal! 

Sunday DinnerOur Sunday Dinner Table with mixed manners!

 

How much is for my benefit?

I can’t deny that being told that my children were very well behaved, well mannered or such like sends a glow of pride all through my body. I am sure there are times when they are less polite, but my well mannered friends fail to report back on such occasions. Receiving positive feedback is always lovely but essentially I am not on the manners case for my own gratification but for the opportunities I believe basic manners will still open for them in life.

Times change

As a child I would never have dreamt of calling a friends’ parents by their Christian name, in fact friends parents from my child hood I still address as Mr and Mrs in my 40s because that is the respect I showed to the older generation when I was young. I know this is out of date now and only reserved for school teachers and am very happy for my children to call friends parents by their Christian name and for their friends to do the same with me. I think a little more ‘cheek’ is also acceptable now without appearing rude. There is still a line which is not to be crossed, I just belief the line has shifted a little and I am keen to ensure mine are aware of this and remain on the appropriate side.

Enjoying the Sunday Roast bone   Then on occasion I just let them enjoy!

Jed with the Sunday roast bone

 

Which manners do you feel are important and how do you instil them into your children?


Country Kids from Coombe Mill

Posted on November 21st, 2011 -

Country Kids from Coombe Mill


Web Sites I can’t live without

Posted on November 21st, 2011 -

Meme Intoduction

I have been double tagged by the lovely  and  in a meme started by Emma at Mummy Musings – the websites we can’t live without.

So here is my list of websites that I can’t live without – ones that I open up on a daily basis and why I use them.

mail@coombemill.com

My BT email account is a basic lifeline for me. Generally the first and last thing I check each day. Everything from booking requests to chat from friends comes through here and I would be lost without it.

Twitter 

For me twitter has become invaluable. It is the one site which covers my personal and business needs which is why I probably spend so much time on there! To be honest I began my twitter account simply to see if it worked as a way to promote our holidays, but I have discovered it is a very supportive on line community for sharing and making friends. I have built up some great on line friends who I enjoy tweting with, many of whome make me laugh out loud.  It has become my guilty pleasure when I say I am “working” . Please come and befriend me there 🙂 https://twitter.com/#!/coombemill

Facebook

I know reading  many of the accounts of those who have already completed this meme that facebook is seen as alittle “has been”. On a personal level I would have to admit that I rarely update my wall. For the business it is different, I still love the interaction on my facebook page https://www.facebook.com/pages/coombe-mill-family-farm-and-fishing-holidays/275217960255 I post several times a week on here with little snipets of news from the farm, extracts from blog posts and pictures of our guests staying. My following is from organic growth over 2+ years and mainly from our guests who like to follow our farm news. It is a great way to stay in contact. I have tried adding a full blog post onto facebook, but the link is rarely opened, yet just a couple of picures and brief comment always generates a reaction. Strange, but I think facebook users and bloggers must be quite different.  

coombemill.com

It has to be there really! I find myself blogging more and more and really enjoying it. Having realunch my web site and integrated my blog just 2 months ago I find I am on here daily. I love having control of the whole site, https://www.coombemill.com/ being able to change text and pictures as new stories come up and blogging is my new past time when I am not tweeting! I love reading and commenting on blogs I follow and receiveng feedback on mine.

Google Analyitics

OK it shouldn’t matter that much, but I do find myself checking on our pageloads most days. *guilty*. I try not to spend too much time but I do like to check which pages on our web site are viewed more often, where pople are coming from and what search terms are turning up our farm holidays. It is a great Google invention!  http://www.google.com/analytics/ If you don’t use it I can recommend havig a look.

In short

I was so looking forward to completing this meme, but now I look back it is a pretty conventional list of must haves. I am either very focussed or just dull – please don’t answer!! I do like to hop into other sites for fun but to stay on brief I am afraid it has to be the above.  

I am now tagging 2 lovley ladies to spill the beans on their ‘can’t live without’ web sites


Silent Sunday

Posted on November 20th, 2011 -

Silent Sunday

 

Kids helping or hindering on the farm?

Silent Sunday as inspired by Mocca Beanie Mummy


Country Kids from Coombe Mill

Posted on November 19th, 2011 -

Country Kids is in week 6!

When I began this linky I did promise that my favourites each month would receive a free Coombe Mill Kids sun hat; a little thank you for taking part and something to help the children enjoy the outdoors and stay sun safe in summer. 

Here are all the lovely entrants from the first 5 weeks, any help on deciding on who should have the 1st hat much appreciated!

Round up of weeks 1 – 5

 
 
         

Next week I will create a top 5 shortlist and announce who will have the 1st of many hats the week after.  If I am dragging the process out a little, it is only to have an opportunity to showcase all the wonderful pictures you have captured to date of your little ones enjoying the magic of the great outdoors.

 Without further ado, here Comes week 6

 

  Helping Daddy

Clio helping Daddy on the farm after school, balancing on the back of the trailer. How did Theo manage to be there?

Whether you have joined in before or popping by for the first time, please do come and link up with a picture or pictures of your children enjoying some fresh air. The countryside, the park or the back garden, rosy cheeks are healthy for kids at any time of the year.

Country Kids from Coombe Mill Farm Holidays Cornwall